Moving on…

Do you ever feel like you want to move forward but something is holding you back? Maybe you want to leave a relationship, get a new job, start a new project, get healthy, or anything new and even though you know you want it, you just can’t get yourself to actually take that action?

Many times we hold the key to open that door and we don’t even realize it. Most of us have something in our past that we carry with us. It could be a traumatic event, something that occurred, or someone who hurt you - whatever it is, it’s something that you just can’t let go of.

It’s okay to have a past, obviously, we all do. It’s fine to remember and reflect on it. It’s healthy to feel those emotions and let them live, but It is so harmful to carry them around as a part of you without ever addressing them. The thing is, those emotions will grow and fester. They will attack you physically and emotionally.

As they say, “what you resist, persists”. (Did you think there wasn’t a cliche saying that would fit here)?

Think of your personal trauma like that person at the party who really wants to talk to you and keeps finding their way over to you or like the bills that have been piling up that you don’t feel like dealing with. You can ignore them all you want, but they’re not going away, they’re only going to stress you out, ruin your time, and take up space in your head.

You have to deal with those emotions. You need to address the pain, anger, sadness, whatever uncomfortable feelings you get thinking about it. No matter what, they will always be a part of you, but you need to channel these feelings in the right way in order to live in the present and be able to take action toward a better future.

It’s so much more difficult to move when you have a heavy anchor weighing you down. It becomes easy for those unmanaged emotions to spill out with barely any provocation. Trust me, I know from experience that not dealing with your own trauma causes a whole lot of other avoidable issues not only with yourself but with those near and dear to you.

I also know from experience that it sucks to think about the worst pieces of yourself. The inner voice, the horrible memories, the past that you can no longer control (if you ever could have in the first place) - it all sucks. BUT the cool part is that you can control it now. You can uncomfortably relive it, feel it, and understand it so that you can let it go and start truly living your life the way you want to. ✌🏼

PS - If you have a past weighing you down or some healing to do, I’d love to chat with you about it 🙂 Send me a DM to set up a free coaching call 💕