Let’s Talk About Sex

I randomly had two friends reference Dr. Ruth when speaking to me this week so I feel like there’s some merit there and I should share.

If you don’t know who Dr. Ruth is you’re probably way younger than I am. You can google her or use my basic knowledge: She was like a million years old but gave some very spot-on advice on relationships and sex.

One of the quotes sent to me was: “When it comes to sex, the most important six inches are the ones between the ears.” Of course, there are different ways to interpret this but I will go with my first thought.

Let’s be honest, anyone can have sex with anyone if they so choose (if of age and consenting). But there is so much more to it than the physical act. The number one most erogenous zone every one of us has, is our brain.

There are different ways individuals are turned on and they vary from person to person. The true way to take your partner on the ride of a lifetime is to engage them emotionally. I haven't done any field research but I can tell you pretty confidently that this is very true. Think about your own experiences and see if I’m right. Or don’t, you can just assume I’m right anyway.

For me, this also applies in another way too.

When I was first injured it was almost like being reborn. I had to learn all about my ‘new’ body. Things were the same - but also totally different. The major difference was how I felt things. Not emotionally, I was still a hot mess, but physically.

For a while I had to use my imagination. I could feel things - but in a completely new way. I had to rediscover what everything was and learn what these new sensations were. It took a long time and still changes -believe it or not.

The cool thing is that in using my imagination, I learned to really connect with different sensations and forms of touch. In doing so, it created a much more intimate experience for me and my lovvvahhh. I honestly can’t explain how it feels or how it works. I’m not even going to try but I can give you something to try and you can report back.

The next time you’re ‘doin it’ - either with yourself or someone else, #nojudgement - really concentrate on the different sensations. Try and imagine all five senses focused in one particular spot. Try and relay that information to your brain as if you have to describe it to someone else. Put your energy into really feeling and experiencing each sensation as it’s own. Then for real let me know if that works because I can’t actually feel like you do so I may be totally wrong.

Hopefully I’m making some kind of point here.I guess what I’m trying to say is that if you want to turn someone on or really get their attention, try stimulating their sexiest body part - their brain. No matter how deep you think you’re getting, you can’t get deeper than that.

#sex #love #drruth #emotion #sensation #bowchixawowow